Your first visit to the gynaecologist can be the beginning of a great relationship. They know a lot and can be a trusted resource for when you have questions and need good, solid answers. But talking to your doctor can also intimidating. Here are some common questions about how to talk to your gynae.
What will we talk about?You doctor will want to learn all about you. Be prepared for a comfortable, easy conversation. Here are some things you may talk about: puberty, menstruation, breasts development, body changes, zits, eating, your favourite activities, your favourite subjects at school, feelings, friends, family, how much sleep you get, how often you shower and wash your hair, how often you pooh, what you like to do to relax, and other stuff about you.
What will my doctor ask?Here are some things about your body and puberty your doctor may ask (or you may ask your doctor!): Have you had your first period? If you have, when was your last period? Do you get it regularly? What products do you use when you have your periods? How heavy are your periods? Have you noticed any changes in your body? Do you sometimes have vaginal discharge in your underwear? It's really important to your health that you answer these questions honestly.
Can I tell my doctor really personal things?Privacy is an important part of your relationship with your gynaecologist so that you can talk openly about your problems and questions. You'll have time to talk with your doctor in front of your parents, as well as alone, without your parents listening in.
Your doctor should make it clear what they will share with your parents and what will be kept just between you. Most of the stuff you talk about will be kept under wraps. But if your doctor feels that you may be in danger of hurting yourself or someone else, or if someone may be hurting you, they will have to share that with your parent or guardian.
What if I don't like my doctor?A gynaecologist is an expert on the female body and can help you through the rollercoaster of puberty. Your doctor can talk with you about issues relating to your body's development, weight, personal care, hygiene and general health. They can be there for you and help you to answer a lot of questions you don't feel like you can go to your parents for. For all these reasons, it is important to have a trusting and comfortable relationship with your your gynaecologist. If you don't feel comfortable with your doctor, talk to your parent or guardian about your feelings. What makes you feel like that, and what would make you more comfortable? Together you can decide how to move forwards, whether it's working with the doctor to help you to feel more comfortable or changing doctors.
Have you been yet? If so, was it as scary as you thought it would be?
