One minute you’re on top of the world! What made you so cheery? The next, you’re in the middle of the worst possible thing that could ever possibly happen! And you’re left wondering why you got so down about something that just isn’t that big a deal. Sound like your life lately?
You’re not alone. Here are some emotional changes that commonly happen during puberty. Soon you’ll understand why your life feels like a rollercoaster!
- Your Thinking Has Changed
You're now able to think more abstractly. You can analyse better. You’re starting to think like an adult. This is a great time to concentrate on school and hobbies. Your brain is growing, so use it! The hobbies that you liked in the past will be even more fun now — try exploring new interests, too.
- You Can Express Your Feelings Better
Your feelings are probably starting to make a lot more sense to you. You may find that you’re able to express whether you’re happy or sad a lot more effectively to others. This gives you a clearer sense of “self” — of who you are. The tricky part is that you’re probably feeling more self-conscious, too, which makes you less inclined to open up.
- You Feel Really Emotional
You may get cross with your parents and friends easily. A little thing that wouldn't have bothered you earlier drives you crazy now. Your little sister might really get on your nerves. Feeling angry is normal during puberty because of the hormonal changes. In fact, for the same reason, many women get edgy just before their periods. Mood swings are also common throughout puberty. So if you're feeling angry you may want to count to 10 (it works) and think about it before you yell at your mum or friend. Redirect anger by exercising. It’s good for your body and your mind. Taking out your anger on a tennis ball or treadmill can lighten your mood — and keep you fit, too!
- You Cry a Lot
You may burst into tears over something small that wouldn’t usually upset you much. This is perfectly normal. Never be afraid to have a mother-daughter talk to calm down. Your mum will put things back into perspective and remind you that everything is OK.
- You Feel More Womanly
Some girls find that they're feeling more feminine. You have more interest in your hair, your makeup and your general appearance.
- You Think You're Weird
You may compare yourself to your friends and feel like there's something wrong with you. You may feel unsure of yourself. Well guess what? Everyone else is thinking the same thing! Others your age are self-conscious, too. Just remember that your personality is growing and you're becoming even more unique — it’s a good thing, even though it may not feel like that right now. Try doing something creative to express all of your new emotions — making something you’re proud of that’s all you will help you to see how fantastic being unique can be.
Any of these sound familiar? What’s your story?